Today in the Southern Hemisphere is Valentines Day!

This is something my husband and I have never really celebrated as a couple as it is our belief that we do not require a special day once a year to show our love to each other. Spontaneous acts throughout the year say it much better for us.

I am here today though to encourage self love.

Consider for a moment how the world occurs for you. Do you feel loved, appreciated, accepted, good enough, smart enough, organised enough, pretty or handsome enough…?

Now consider the possibility that how the world occurs for you is only a reflection of how you see yourself? What do you think of that. What if the world and the people in it treat you as your belief about yourself.

I have a favourite quote in life by Marianne Williamson “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliantgorgeoustalented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

The sentence in particular that states “we are all meant to shine, as children do…” helped me to stop and consider how I treat my children. My children are my world. I love them unconditionally and though at times they may make mistakes or disappoint me my love does not change for them. IF my children felt they were not good enough, ugly, unloveable, stupid, alone…and the list goes on (of the things we tell ourselves) I would be devastated. I would encourage them to think differently about themselves, to see their amazingness and beauty and gifts. So why then did I find it acceptable for me to treat myself with these contempts. I began to see how my relationships were reflections of how I treated myself and that when I changed how I saw myself it shifted how people saw me.

I encourage and URGE you today on this day of celebrating Love to look at yourself. What amazing qualities do you have. Where do you need an adjustment in self love. Remind yourself that you are perfect EXACTLY AS YOU ARE! Your are special, your good enough, your loveable, your wanted, your not alone, your deserve joy, life and happiness. No matter what mistakes you have made in life, clean them up and remember that we only ever have this very moment. The only thing that exists in this very moment is what YOU choose to create.

Before the day ends Please stand infront of your mirror, look at yourself and say “I LOVE YOU!” and choose you, when your cup is filled with love for yourself than you are free to love and be loved by others.